Maybe you've been successful in your life so far.

And yet there’s this one area where you feel less certain — where intelligence, achievement, and self-awareness don’t seem to quiet the questions.

You may feel a pull toward more freedom, honesty, or aliveness in your relationships. You may already be exploring non-monogamy and finding it more challenging than expected. Or you may simply be trying to understand what you want without destabilizing the life you’ve built.

These questions don’t have easy answers. But they become much less overwhelming when you don’t have to carry them alone.

Most people come to me thinking they have a relationship problem. More often, it’s a congruence problem.

Part of you longs for more freedom, honesty, or expansion. Another part wants stability, integrity, and to protect the life you’ve built. Both parts are intelligent. Both are trying to take care of something important.

My work isn’t about convincing you which part is right — or talking you into non-monogamy or out of it. It’s about helping those parts stop fighting each other, so whatever you choose, you can feel more at peace with it.
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We might work particularly well together if:

  • You’re already practicing non-monogamy, curious about opening, or questioning what kind of relationship structure actually fits your life.

  • You want non-monogamy to work in your life but also want to stay true to who you are and your values.

  • You’re a parent, founder, leader, creative, or someone with a full life and real responsibilities.

  • You care deeply about being an ethical, honest person, and can take emotional responsibility.

This is NOT for you if:

  • You want a set of rules to help "fix" your problems right away.

  • You're cheating on your partner(s).

  • You're not willing to look inward.

Hi, I'm Sarah.

I’m a certified systemic coach, writer, and author of Monogamaybe?, based in Berlin.

Before becoming a coach and writer, I studied at UPenn and spent years in tech and finance. I know what it’s like to be capable in high-pressure environments and then come home to questions about love that can’t be solved by being smart. For the past decade, my work has centered on non-monogamy, open relating, jealousy, honesty, desire, and the search for relationships that feel both alive and ethical. I bring a mindfulness-based approach informed by systemic coaching, Vipassana meditation, Nonviolent Communication, lived experience, and years of writing publicly about the private questions many people are afraid to name. I create a space that is warm, direct, discreet, and welcoming to people of all races, genders, and orientations.

After working with me, you'll walk away with:

  • A calmer nervous system

    So you don't panic the next time jealousy, shame, or guilt shows up.

  • Confidence in your path

    Even when things feel uncertain.

  • A sense of inner peace

    Even as challenges happen.

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Let’s explore whether coaching with me will genuinely help you feel more aligned and steady in your relationships

Testimonial - Leah

"Just in the the small time we’ve been working together I feel fulfilled, I feel more myself, I have more energy for what life throws at me."

"I especially loved Sarah’s mindful approach to determining choices and boundaries. She helped me truly listen to and trust myself, and sometimes she would interject by offering the simplest suggestion that had somehow evaded me. By the end of this coaching journey I found myself in a lighter space and the noise in my head quieted." -Melissa


Testimonial - Camila

"I feel more at ease with the fact that my partner wants to see other people."

"Before we started working together, non-monogamy seemed impossible. 4 months later, I'm actually in a non-monogamous relationship."

- Aga

"Coaching helped me to direct my intentions and energy more consistently with my values." -Leslie


If this resonates, we can explore whether working together feels right.

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FAQ

  • What's the difference between coaching & therapy?

    There can be a lot of overlap between coaching and certain forms of therapy. However, unlike a therapist, as a coach, I do not treat diagnosed psychological illness such as depression and anxiety. Our coaching sessions focus more on results and taking action in your life as opposed to discussing your past (but we may very well do a lot of that too!). These lines are not cut and dry.

  • How much does a session cost?

    Private coaching engagements typically run 4–6 months and begin at $1,800, depending on scope and intensity. The first step is a confidential 30-minute conversation to explore whether the work is a fit. There is no charge and no pressure, and you’ll leave with something useful either way.

  • Can we meet in person?

    Currently, I'm focused on online sessions but if you are in Berlin, let's talk about it.

  • What kind of coaching do you do?

    Systemic coaches, like me, do not just focus on one area but the whole system. In other words, even though you may come here with a specific problem or goal, we won't zero in on that and ignore everything else. Instead, we will explore all aspects of your life because everything is connected. During our sessions, we'll use a mix of dialogue meant to challenge and inspire as well as creative methods in order to get you out of your normal thought processes and give you more access to your subconscious needs and motivations. This is how you will make the lasting and meaningful changes you want to see.