Monogamaybe?
Honest advice on navigating relationships from monogamy to polyamory
About the book
One spouse, two-point-four kids, a golden retriever and a white picket fence. That's the goal, right? For some people it sounds perfect. For plenty of others, the monogamous "default" just feels tight and uncomfortable, and a more flexible approach is what actually lets them breathe.
In Monogamaybe?, Sarah Stroh writes openly about coming to terms with being non-monogamous, and lays out real ways to explore relationship structures outside the status quo. She digs into the stuff nobody hands you a manual for: handling shame and stigma, understanding jealousy in yourself and your partners, and figuring out long-term commitment when the usual script doesn't fit.
It isn't here to sell you on polyamory. It's here to help you work out what's actually true for you, and build open relationships that are honest and healthy for everyone in them.
Praise
Monogamaybe? follows Stroh's journey through years of serial monogamy, cheating, and shame — before she even knew non-monogamy was an option. Stroh writes like a candid friend, tracing the real cost of not knowing yourself and the freedom that comes from finally being honest about what you actually want. Part memoir, part practical coaching, this book isn't trying to convince you of anything — it's helping you figure out what's true for you.
— Jessica Fern, author of Polysecure
Monogamaybe? offers a choose-your-own-adventure for wherever you are in your relationship(s) journey, teaching the skills necessary to practice non-monogamy. And yet, Sarah's memoir goes far deeper. By sharing and analyzing her polyamory path, she shows, firsthand, how to be a secure, grown-ass, fully functioning adult who doesn't let anger, fear, or unhelpful coping patterns dictate life. A must-read for anyone attempting to function in the world.
— Zachary Zane, author of Boyslut
In this page-turner of a memoir, Stroh invites us to witness her riveting journey of claiming her truth as a polyamorous woman. Bold and intimate, her book deshames the experience of existential discomfort so many feel within monogamy-and lights a path towards relational diversity and freedom.
— Marie Thouin, PhD, Relationship Coach and Author of What is Compersion?: Understanding Positive Empathy in Consensually Non-Monogamous Relationships
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Available in paperback, audio, and e-book
Paperback · 208 pages · Jessica Kingsley Publishers · ISBN 9781805017233 · Published 21 July 2026
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About the author
Sarah Stroh is a non-monogamy writer and coach based in Berlin. She writes Monogamish, a newsletter about doing relationships differently, and works with people untangling jealousy, shame and the question of what they actually want out of love. Monogamaybe? is her first book.
Find her: Substack ·Medium ·Instagram @monogamish_me